Ten Rules For A Successful Marriage

1. You must marry the right person, one you love, and one who loves you, and both of you must be in love with Jesus Christ.

2. GIVE and TAKE is a necessity. Let love cover the
disagreements which will come in any marriage.

3. Never carry into tomorrow the petty troubles of today.

Forgive at the end of the day, and then forget.

4. Don't discuss your disagreement and personal problems
with others. You will soon forget these quarrels,
but others will remember them. Go to the Lord for
advice.

5. Try to live within your financial means. Don't
try to keep up with some other couple; keep within your income. And be sure to set aside something for the Lord's work.

6. Keep your love as romantic as possible. Appreciate
each other. Express that appreciation in actual
love and affection in the home.


7. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER even think of divorce as a
solution for your marriage problems. You took
your vows until death do us part. So often
divorce never settles anything!

8. Keep your eyes on the person you have married,
and don't bother looking around for someone else.
Wandering eyes benefit no marriage.

9. Read God's Word and pray together every day. To
pray together is to stay together.

10. Let Christ shed the love of God abroad in your
heart, and you will be sure to have his love for
each other.

Secondary PTSD

I really feel moved to post this link about secondary PTSD.

Many wives are dealing with a form of PTSD due to the war on terror.

PTSD symptoms include:

• Avoiding thoughts, feelings, or conversations associated with the trauma
• Avoiding activities, places, or people that remind you of the trauma
• Inability to remember important aspects of the trauma
• Loss of interest in activities and life in general
• Feeling detached or estranged from other people
• Feeling emotionally numb, especially toward loved ones
• Sense of a limited future (you don’t expect to live a normal life span, get married, have a career)

Here are a few quotes from this terrific article:

Basically, when you're living with a veteran who has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, you become his (or her) caretaker. You slip into a role, without even noticing it, that has you constantly watching for people or circumstances that might "set him off."

Secondary PTSD may make you feel overly angry, depressed, exhausted (but, alas, unable to sleep), overwhelmed, and just plain unhappy with the world around you.

HERE is a link to a very informative article on Secondary PTSD and how it effects military wives. Please, check it out @ http://www.familyofavet.com